Learning To Love Well

Love Is Patient

Love is patient. Those are hard words. They become even more difficult when you look at the definition of patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset. Some people seem to be born with the gift of patience, but for most of us, it’s a skill that […]

Love Endures

Bearing With One Another

Love is a collection of traits that are developed over time and then exerted for the good of someone else. That’s why love isn’t easy. It takes time, and those who don’t invest time in growing as a person will often struggle to love others well over time. One of the traits that allows us […]

You’re Wrong

Why Our Favorite Words Aren't Helping

Why are we so eager to point out when and where people fail? When someone makes a very public mistake, it takes only seconds for people to post their disapproval on social media. This inclination seems to starts young for most of us. If you have brothers and sisters, you know what I’m talking about. […]

The Only John Wayne Movie I Hated

When Good And Bad Isn't As Clear As You'd Like It To Be

My father loved John Wayne movies. So, I grew up with a steady diet of the Duke. I still love those movies. I clearly remember the first John Wayne movie that I didn’t like, however. It was called “The Cowboys”. The Duke was needing some cowhands to help get his cows to market. The only […]

Can You See The Reflection?

Seeing The Best In Each Other

I love it when autumn arrives each year. There are a thousand things I love about fall, the cool mornings, pumpkin flavored things, and of course, college football. It doesn’t matter who is playing. I just love the games. I love the bands on the field at halftime, and the great environment on campus on […]

Less Can Be More

Why Hurrying Isn't Helping

Parenting isn’t easy. Ok, you already knew that, but it’s something that’s super easy to forget. If you aren’t careful you will look back and beat yourself up a bit for the mistakes you’ve made, rather than just addressing them and moving on. One of my biggest mistakes during my single Dad years involved hurrying. […]

Effective Communication

How Simplifying Your Communication Will Strengthen Your Relationships

It’s amazing what you can learn if you are willing to see all that goes on around you. Recently, while having a coffee in a small bakery, I noticed a mother and daughter climb out of their car and ready themselves to come in. It was a bit of a process because the daughter was […]

Happy Mother’s Day!

A Poem and a Prayer

I am grateful to have had a wonderful mom, and even though she is no longer with us, her memory and impact is fresh and real every day. My mom was the most courageous person I have ever known. So, for those of you who enter this Mother’s Day without your mother, I encourage you […]

6 Things I’ve Learned About Grief (Number 6) (The Final One)

They Were Worth It

Last Christmas, our daughter gave Mindi and I a free night of babysitting that we used to catch a concert at one of our favorite venues. I wasn’t expecting a new insight into grief as Johnnyswim walked out onto the stage that night, but that’s what I got.  The husband-wife duo talked about how they had […]