Category Archives: Communication Skills

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How To Know If You’ve Become An Enabler (And What To Do About It)

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Being an enabler (or engaging in codependent behavior) is an easy relational trap to fall into. We love the people in our relationships and we want the best for them. Sometimes we want good things for them even more than they want them for themselves. That’s when things can become unhealthy. When we enable others, […]

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How Questions Can Make Your Relationships Stronger

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Companies can operate by force, with bosses barking orders and employees scurrying to do anything they can to please. Many teams are governed by force, with coaches or star players making demands. True relationships are must more intricate, however. Relationships can’t survive for long in the midst of coercion, manipulation, or power struggles. That is […]

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Why Saying “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Working Anymore: How To Apologize In A Relational Way

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I grew up in a small town in the mountains of western North Carolina. Every home town has its own unique set of rules that seem to be relatively constant throughout the area. In the hometown (and the south in general), we were taught to say, “I’m sorry”. If we had done something wrong, or […]

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3 Things That Are Keeping You From Saying “No” (and what you can do about it)

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One thing all people who are relationally healthy have in common is the ability to say “no”. Most people struggle with using “no” in a healthy way. Three of the primary reasons people avoid saying “no” are:             1)We don’t want to disappoint anyone                         I was once given the following piece of advice: If […]