There’s lots of talk in churches and other organizations about developing an “ownership” mindset when it comes to their group. The thought is that the group would run better if members took pride in the organization the way an owner would. For instance, many people spend lots of time deciding which shrubs and flowers to plant around their house, and where to plant them. We carefully choose which paint color will work in the den versus the kitchen. We make time to clean and organize our homes, so that we will be comfortable there. In contrast, we rarely think of other people’s homes, or what colors they should paint their child’s room. The reason for this is simple. We care more about things that are ours.

But there’s also a dark side of the “ownership” mindset that has caused trouble for many organizations, and has led several to close their doors for good. So how can you tell if you are a good owner or a bad owner?

When someone with a  bad ownership mentality says, “This is MY church, team, office, etc…”, what they are really saying is “I demand to have a say in what goes on here”. More to the point they are often saying, “I should get my way here”.  Bad ownership mentality focuses on “what I deserve”. They demand to have their rights honored. Their primary concern is their well-being and place in the group.

A healthy ownership mentality looks a little different. When it says, “This is MY church, team, office, etc…”, what they are really saying is I demand that we be our best. Good ownership mentality focuses on “what I can do to improve things”. They are not concerned with their rights as much as they are their responsibility. Their primary concern is our well-being as a group.

You will find good owners picking up litter outside of their building. Bad owners will be looking for someone to blame for the trash outside of their building. Good owners know that they are more successful when the group is successful, so they look for ways to help others. They praise the successes of others. Bad owners are only focused on their own success, and will sacrifice others if they think it will help their cause. They downplay the successes of others, and highlight their mistakes.

Good owners make churches, companies, and families better. Bad owners will eventually tear them apart. Most of us have spent time on both sides of the fence. If you care about the groups you live and work in, commit to growing as a good owner. Your group will be grateful, and you will thrive more fully.